At only 13 years old, Megghan was diagnosed with a very rare form of melanoma that has shaped the way she sees the world.
Nothing prepares you for a melanoma diagnosis on your 14 year old daughter.
How often have we heard someone express the sentiment, “Oh for the Good Ol’ Days”. Well I certainly don’t yearn for those days when it comes to living and dealing with melanoma.
"Did you put sunscreen on?"
"Yes, I did."
"Well, did you reapply? It doesn't look like you reapplied."
"Ugh. Yes, I reapplied once."
"But you were out in the sun for 8 hours - you only reapplied once? Honey, you know you need to put sunscreen on multiple times throughout the day. Especially if you're in the water all day."
One of my biggest internal struggles on my cancer journey has been with the sometimes exciting, but largely depressing, notion of a bucket list.
My choosing to have, or not to have, a bucket list would change every few weeks. But I realise now, the weeks when I was pro-bucket list I was convincing myself that ‘living in the moment’ and ‘making the most of life’ were phrases that instilled purpose and happiness in a time of uncertainty and sadness. However, when thinking about what I would write on my bucket list, I did not feel like I had purpose and I definitely did not feel happy. Instead, I felt defeated, upset, and I felt like I was dying.
A few weeks ago, I shared on my Dear Melanoma Facebook page that I had made an appointment to go and see one of the psychologists at the Cancer Council office in Brisbane. I shared this piece of very personal information because I wanted other people to know that I am not this crazy strong young woman that you might think I am from reading my blog or interacting with me online. And, although my treatment is going well, I still struggle with living every day knowing that my time is short. I needed to see a psychologist to have a good cry too and work out how I am going to navigate life with a terminal diagnosis.